I've been a little blogstapated lately...Actually I have had a lot to write about but no desire to take the time to write it all down. Our week started off with a bang when Banana decided to get sick. Fun stuff. She is such a trooper though. She would throw up, and then be back to her cheerful self two minutes later. I wish we would all do that!! I decided to get sick a few days later...but I have an AWESOME husband who took time away from studying and school to take care of me and the kids. He took the kids to work, and to dinner and cleaned up some of the house for me. It was hard to try and relax and get better, and not feel guilty that I wasn't helping. He is great. It was sad to hear them playing in their bedroom and not be able to go and join in. Banana is absolutely HILARIOUS when she is playing with her dad, sister, and best boyfriend Randy. I need to record it sometime. I am definitely on the mend now and am grateful for that.
Being sick always humbles me and I spend a lot of that time thinking of things I am grateful for and of all of the blessings in my life. The biggest thing that kept coming to mind was the HUGE blessing of being here in Iowa. I complain about the cold (well...all of us out here do), but this place and the people here are incredible. We have moved around a lot since we were married and this is the first place where we have felt at home. Most everyone we come in contact with are genuine and caring. They will go out of their way to make sure you are okay.
I also kept thinking about how grateful I am for family that loves you in spite of...They love you in spite of your many flaws and your quirks. Family that always has your best interest at heart and who will back you up in any situation. Most especially for family who can put all pettiness aside and be your friend. Going home over the break made me CHERISH those people even more. It made me appreciate being surrounded by family that loves you for you. Is that too cheesy :)
Moving on. Banana never really went through a "terrible two" stage. I thought we were pretty lucky. And then this week hit. Oh man. She is still a HUGE sweetheart 99.9 percent of the time. But she has started having major separation anxiety. She went through a phase like this when she was younger and grew out of it pretty quickly when she started nursery. This time it came out of nowhere. I left somewhere with a friend last weekend and she did her usual crying of don't leave me mom...etc. No biggie. So. We get to dancing class on Monday night and she was hyper/excited as usual when I go to drop her off. I walk into her classroom and hurry to leave because I'm late for teaching my class and she suddenly gets teary. Keep in mind that she begs to go to dancing class ALL week long. I just gave her a quick hug, and hurried out of the room. I was about ten minutes into class when I hear someone coming down the hallway sobbing. Her teacher knocks on my door and there she is holding a HYSTERICAL Banana. Not just a sad Banana, an out of control, can't get her to calm down little girl. I have my TA take over for a minute to try and get Banana calmed down. No luck. So I sit her down in my class and make her watch. She refused to go back to class. So out of character. On the way home I asked her what was wrong and she said she just wanted to be a family...Then I felt bad for being so frustrated. Onto two nights later. I had been sick all day and hadn't been around her much. Hubby puts her to bed and shes starts another hysterical meltdown. He gets frustrated so I tell him just to leave so he can get to his bball game. I let her cry it out for a while but it just gets louder and more hysterical. Then she started crying "Mom I just miss you!" She says this about four times and I break down and go in. It broke my heart to hear her like that. Once again her answer to why she was so sad..."I just wanted to be a family." Are you seeing a pattern?
Finally yesterday. Her BFF Eden was having a birthday party, which Banana talked about all week. She was super excited to whole way over, then we walk in the door, I tell her good-bye and hysterics start again. I was pretty frustrated by this point and told her she was staying. Crying got worse...I used every threat in the book (taking away toys, no treats, etc.) She agrees to it all. WHAT? What little kid agrees to punishment so her mom won't leave her? So we leave. I was still pretty upset so I let Hubby talk to her when we get home. After a heart to heart she tells him...she just wanted to be a family. What do you do? Any ideas? I'm drawing a blank. Help!
Sorry, that was a long drawn out story but I need help. I don't want to just tell her she doesn't have to be social, or that she can stop going to dancing class/nursery/playing with friends. I'm curious if this kind of reaction has stemmed from some experience she had recently at one of those places, or if it's just a phase? What do you think? What can I do to help?
We did do a lot of fun stuff this week in spite of the sickies. We went sledding! It was Miss Em's first time and she LOVED it. I think she is the only human being out there who LIKES this Iowa coldness. She grins and laughs every time the we step outside.. Kinda funny. Mostly weird.
Em has started moving around like crazy. She is super fast and LOVES to climb on things. She learned how to crawl onto the bottom part of her exersaucer. (There's usually stray puffs and such down there). She will just hang out there for quite a while content to eat her leftovers. Don't judge me :) It's pretty neat to see her being so mobile, and it keeps me on my toes.
I went and had a pedicure with Liz last week and Banana has been begging for once ever since. So I stuck her feet in the sink and let her go to town. She was content to just let the warm water run over her feet and called it good. I didn't mind!! You couldn't get the smile off of her face. (yes, we're rocking some awesome pink tile in our bathroom).
To end the week we let Banana stay up for her first movie night. We made these fun banana/yogurt popsicles, and picked out the perfect movie. We had all these fun ideas of her cuddling up with us, and falling asleep in our arms. Ha! She was WOUND up the entire time. It was almost ten by the time we put her in bed and she was showing no signs of slowing down. I think we'll wait a while before we attempt that again!
Have a fantastic week! I promise the next post won't be a short novel.
Being sick always humbles me and I spend a lot of that time thinking of things I am grateful for and of all of the blessings in my life. The biggest thing that kept coming to mind was the HUGE blessing of being here in Iowa. I complain about the cold (well...all of us out here do), but this place and the people here are incredible. We have moved around a lot since we were married and this is the first place where we have felt at home. Most everyone we come in contact with are genuine and caring. They will go out of their way to make sure you are okay.
I also kept thinking about how grateful I am for family that loves you in spite of...They love you in spite of your many flaws and your quirks. Family that always has your best interest at heart and who will back you up in any situation. Most especially for family who can put all pettiness aside and be your friend. Going home over the break made me CHERISH those people even more. It made me appreciate being surrounded by family that loves you for you. Is that too cheesy :)
Moving on. Banana never really went through a "terrible two" stage. I thought we were pretty lucky. And then this week hit. Oh man. She is still a HUGE sweetheart 99.9 percent of the time. But she has started having major separation anxiety. She went through a phase like this when she was younger and grew out of it pretty quickly when she started nursery. This time it came out of nowhere. I left somewhere with a friend last weekend and she did her usual crying of don't leave me mom...etc. No biggie. So. We get to dancing class on Monday night and she was hyper/excited as usual when I go to drop her off. I walk into her classroom and hurry to leave because I'm late for teaching my class and she suddenly gets teary. Keep in mind that she begs to go to dancing class ALL week long. I just gave her a quick hug, and hurried out of the room. I was about ten minutes into class when I hear someone coming down the hallway sobbing. Her teacher knocks on my door and there she is holding a HYSTERICAL Banana. Not just a sad Banana, an out of control, can't get her to calm down little girl. I have my TA take over for a minute to try and get Banana calmed down. No luck. So I sit her down in my class and make her watch. She refused to go back to class. So out of character. On the way home I asked her what was wrong and she said she just wanted to be a family...Then I felt bad for being so frustrated. Onto two nights later. I had been sick all day and hadn't been around her much. Hubby puts her to bed and shes starts another hysterical meltdown. He gets frustrated so I tell him just to leave so he can get to his bball game. I let her cry it out for a while but it just gets louder and more hysterical. Then she started crying "Mom I just miss you!" She says this about four times and I break down and go in. It broke my heart to hear her like that. Once again her answer to why she was so sad..."I just wanted to be a family." Are you seeing a pattern?
Finally yesterday. Her BFF Eden was having a birthday party, which Banana talked about all week. She was super excited to whole way over, then we walk in the door, I tell her good-bye and hysterics start again. I was pretty frustrated by this point and told her she was staying. Crying got worse...I used every threat in the book (taking away toys, no treats, etc.) She agrees to it all. WHAT? What little kid agrees to punishment so her mom won't leave her? So we leave. I was still pretty upset so I let Hubby talk to her when we get home. After a heart to heart she tells him...she just wanted to be a family. What do you do? Any ideas? I'm drawing a blank. Help!
Sorry, that was a long drawn out story but I need help. I don't want to just tell her she doesn't have to be social, or that she can stop going to dancing class/nursery/playing with friends. I'm curious if this kind of reaction has stemmed from some experience she had recently at one of those places, or if it's just a phase? What do you think? What can I do to help?
We did do a lot of fun stuff this week in spite of the sickies. We went sledding! It was Miss Em's first time and she LOVED it. I think she is the only human being out there who LIKES this Iowa coldness. She grins and laughs every time the we step outside.. Kinda funny. Mostly weird.
Em has started moving around like crazy. She is super fast and LOVES to climb on things. She learned how to crawl onto the bottom part of her exersaucer. (There's usually stray puffs and such down there). She will just hang out there for quite a while content to eat her leftovers. Don't judge me :) It's pretty neat to see her being so mobile, and it keeps me on my toes.
I went and had a pedicure with Liz last week and Banana has been begging for once ever since. So I stuck her feet in the sink and let her go to town. She was content to just let the warm water run over her feet and called it good. I didn't mind!! You couldn't get the smile off of her face. (yes, we're rocking some awesome pink tile in our bathroom).
To end the week we let Banana stay up for her first movie night. We made these fun banana/yogurt popsicles, and picked out the perfect movie. We had all these fun ideas of her cuddling up with us, and falling asleep in our arms. Ha! She was WOUND up the entire time. It was almost ten by the time we put her in bed and she was showing no signs of slowing down. I think we'll wait a while before we attempt that again!
Have a fantastic week! I promise the next post won't be a short novel.
5 comments:
That's so funny. We always want to do movie night too, Calvy will sometimes fall asleep with us, but sometimes we end up just wanting a movie night alone, so we'll put him in bed. Why does life never end up the way we want? I always have these fun ideas of what a certain activity will be like and it pretty much never ends up that way.
I'm glad you're feeling better.
I love the black and white pictures of Em...so stinkin cute!
Aidan goes through the same tantrums, sometimes when I leave him he could care less other times he cries and won't let go of me. He'll tell me "I just miss you", "mommy please don't leave me", all of these things that make me feel sooo guilty but the next day he is just fine with it. WEIRD.
We're still battling the sickies here. Ugh...
I'm glad you made it through. I would never judge someone who lets their kids snack off the floor. My guys do it all the time! It makes sweeping a whole lot easier! :)
You look just like your mom in the last picture.
Have you asked her what a family is, when she says that? Maybe her concept of family is a little mixed up? Maybe she heard something totally normal you guys said, but she didn't understand it.
This age is hard. They communicate pretty well, but I don't think their real thoughts get all the way out!
Keep getting better! Being sick is hard as a mother! Is there anything I can do to help? Let me know for sure!!!
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