-Disclaimer-
This post is about a subject that has been on my mind recently. Please don't take it personally, or think that I am talking about you. If it were about you, you would know. We all have trials that we have gone through, and lessons we have learned from those trials. These are just some ramblings on my thoughts of a subject that I feel strongly about. (And it was written after three hours of sleep and a night of a screaming child).
Ok, I have to get something off my chest. This blog is a sort of journal for me so you get to read all of the good, bad, and the ugly. And if you don't like it then...don't read it. One of my biggest pet peeves is I guess what you would call a two faced person. I don't really like that term, but I can't think of anything better to describe it. I know at some point in our lives we are all guilty of that, and I am no exception. But when it is something that happens all of the time, I think it says something about your character. And when what you are doing is purposefully hateful and petty, especially if it is towards someone in your own family, I think you should take a long hard look at yourself and see if you are being the kind of person you want your children to become. We all make snap judgments of people and how they act in certain situations, but until we can see into their minds (which will never happen), we have no place in passing judgement. We all know how hurtful it is when you find out things that are being said about you. Especially when it is by family/friends. Or family that you consider friends.
Growing up, my parents were always striving really hard to teach us to make right decisions and my mom was a big advocate of not gossiping. It was all but punishable by death in my house if we were caught gossiping about anyone. Period. Even if it was someone who had wronged us. I struggled with that for a while in high school and into college, but now that I am trying to raise a family I try really hard to let my mother's influence rule that part of my life. So my point (and I do have one) is please be watchful of what you are saying and to who you are saying it. No matter how confidential you think your conversation is, it usually isn't. No one wants to be on the receiving end of hearing what hateful things have been said about them. I am working so hard to better this part of my personality, and I hope that everyone out there is working on that as well. This is the perfect time of year to put grudges, pettiness, and selfishness aside. Be more mindful about what you say about family. Whether it be immediate, in-laws or extended. The purpose of this life is to gain eternal life with our eternal families. Try and make everyone that falls into that category feel loved and included. Just try harder to be a better/nicer person.
This post is about a subject that has been on my mind recently. Please don't take it personally, or think that I am talking about you. If it were about you, you would know. We all have trials that we have gone through, and lessons we have learned from those trials. These are just some ramblings on my thoughts of a subject that I feel strongly about. (And it was written after three hours of sleep and a night of a screaming child).
Ok, I have to get something off my chest. This blog is a sort of journal for me so you get to read all of the good, bad, and the ugly. And if you don't like it then...don't read it. One of my biggest pet peeves is I guess what you would call a two faced person. I don't really like that term, but I can't think of anything better to describe it. I know at some point in our lives we are all guilty of that, and I am no exception. But when it is something that happens all of the time, I think it says something about your character. And when what you are doing is purposefully hateful and petty, especially if it is towards someone in your own family, I think you should take a long hard look at yourself and see if you are being the kind of person you want your children to become. We all make snap judgments of people and how they act in certain situations, but until we can see into their minds (which will never happen), we have no place in passing judgement. We all know how hurtful it is when you find out things that are being said about you. Especially when it is by family/friends. Or family that you consider friends.
Growing up, my parents were always striving really hard to teach us to make right decisions and my mom was a big advocate of not gossiping. It was all but punishable by death in my house if we were caught gossiping about anyone. Period. Even if it was someone who had wronged us. I struggled with that for a while in high school and into college, but now that I am trying to raise a family I try really hard to let my mother's influence rule that part of my life. So my point (and I do have one) is please be watchful of what you are saying and to who you are saying it. No matter how confidential you think your conversation is, it usually isn't. No one wants to be on the receiving end of hearing what hateful things have been said about them. I am working so hard to better this part of my personality, and I hope that everyone out there is working on that as well. This is the perfect time of year to put grudges, pettiness, and selfishness aside. Be more mindful about what you say about family. Whether it be immediate, in-laws or extended. The purpose of this life is to gain eternal life with our eternal families. Try and make everyone that falls into that category feel loved and included. Just try harder to be a better/nicer person.
That's it. I have stepped off my soap box. And here's a cute video to make this post not so lame.
9 comments:
I would like to think that I have grown out of that horrible stage too. I'm not perfect but Kevin is the only person I say stuff to. I hate when my family does it about those who are not in listening range. It makes me think they say bad stuff about me when I'm not there. Its a horrible feeling. Then again, I do have Kevin's family who is NOT afraid to tell you to your face what's on their mind. Its really intimidating. Sometimes it crosses the line but what can you do. I try and stay the bigger person, its hard but at least you can tell yourself that you are the better example to your kids.
I can remember your mom talking about that. It makes me sad that people actually talk about their family/friends in hurtful ways...whether they mean to or not. I have said things not even thinking they could be construed as hurtful, then really regretted it later.
I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean it.
This is well said Dancin' Mama. I think that is an excellent rule that your mom had, and one I will work to implement in my own. A very good point about how it doesn't help the eternal family goal when you do stuff like this.
But really, I didn't mean for it to get back to you...
I am really bad about that. I don't mean to be, but sometimes the only thing I have in common with someone is someone else, so we gossip, Good/ bad/ or indifferent. It's wrong. I don't ever mean to hurt anyone and if you know me real well, you'll know that most the time if it sounds hurtful, it is really just me being sarcastic about everything (which can also be taken the wrong way)
I will personally try harder to set a good example for my kids. I think that is a good rule. Thanks for sharing.
BTW-
The video of Banana was absolutely adorable! I love it when she sings! Too Cute!
I love the video! She is so adorable.....I really have no idea what she was saying, I think there was something about a frog, but loved it!
I am sorry if things are not going great....if you need to talk let me know!
Nobody...you stole my comment. Dang it. Yeah, I am usually very, very careful of who and what I say things to. There are not very many people that I trust with stuff. That crap happens. It's happend to me. It makes us stronger. Love ya! you are a great Momma and a wonderful example to your kids.
What the heck happened?! Also, little H is so cute. Daisy made me watch that video like 5 times and kept asking me what song she was singing...but I didn't know.
THAT is a cute video!
I am sorry somebody hurt your feelings. I think you are a great person. and I would love to hang out with you. also thanks the other night for inviting me out for dinner.
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